Auntie Janey’s Old-Fashioned Agony Column # 56: Getting good grades
This is tiresome but we are repeating it for the benefit of readers with poor reading comprehension skills.
WE ARE NOT AUNTIE JANEY. AUNTIE JANEY IS A MAN. DUH.
There. On to this week’s letter.
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Dear Auntie Janey,
(Please Auntie Janey, sweet frank Auntie Janey, if you happen to be reading this on a good May’s day pay attention to this so I could still wake up and make necessary actions before the enrolment is over. Thank you.)
First like most of your letter senders I’d like to extend my gratitude and praises for your mere existence. You (or your writing and podcasts) somehow make me forget how boring my life has been for a couple of years now. But yes, sincerely, thank you. (Okay, I’m thanking much, like Wesley Gibson).
I’m a student of a pretty difficult 5-year course which naturally comes as a 4-year course (ledgers, balance sheets) to most schools. You see I study at a state university here in my hometown south of the country. I like it here anyway – life is simple and carefree. The problem is I flunked a subject on my 3rd year – 2nd semester so I am spending the whole of summer agonizing over this. (No we can’t study major subjects over the summer.) For the blame, I’ve found an addiction to Harry Potter since December 2011 so naturally I’ve been reading the books, rereading them, watching the movies, watching them again and searching all related materials on the Net (character profiles, actor profiles, quotes, fan fiction). But then again, it was my choice and I was happy all along. It was somewhat a childhood dream you see.
It’s not that I’ve spent time to think solutions to my problem – just that I need more help with my options.
First, I talked to the others who flunked and they all said that we ought to continue. That said we gamble for another 3 years for a 6-year journey in college. For now, I think it’s the most sensible thing to do. There are many who do this. But you see I went to other private colleges (known to be more lenient) to check if I could study the same course at the least time and I think I found one that could take me to the same 6-year route. However, I think transferring there’d make my credentials even less (rumors are graduates at that certain college find much difficulty finding jobs herein our humble city) plus I’m worrying on studying somewhere alone.
But what bothers me most is I don’t really feel confident that I could still do this. I somehow lost hunger, curiosity and whatnot. Last semester, I just didn’t care. You see most of my successes are based on fear or prestige. I was rather good in first and second year high school ‘because I feared to disappoint my parents and aunt and friends and coworkers (oh, the plight of the middle class as you all say) who cared, plus I loved feeling “being there” anyway, which I now loathe as it accounts for my rather pompous manner. When I got to college, I scraped good grades on my very first semester because I was rather energetic. But when the subjects just got tads tougher, I just lost my gusto and just got satisfied with 70s and 80s (that’s 3.0 to 2.5) at least. I knew all along it was just a matter of time and when I got there I can’t bare how it haunts me.
So I thought maybe it’s time to change my course – something I could manage I guess. But then again, I am afraid of starting alone as a super-electromagnetic irregular student. But that would make a 7-year senseless college life. But at least I could make use of the skills I’m rather good at (or so I think I talk quite well).
Of all these I think what bothers me most is that I am still here stuck at school, jobless, penniless, getting old and with a scarred transcript. I hope to go back three years ago when I was 16 and tell myself never to take the course of the ledgers because it would drive you nuts.
Please Auntie Janey, am I making a right thing gambling to continue treading this road? Given that I am not confident? Given that my priority is to finish college the least possible time?
Sincerely yours,
Albus Severus Potter
Dear Albus Severus Potter,
You may be confusing me with somebody else. I have never made or listened to a podcast in my entire life. Make a podcast…hmmmmnnnn…there’s an idea.
Did you ever think that becoming a wizard was that easy? Wizards, accountants, lawyers, doctors, engineers, etcetera, are not made overnight. In many things in this life, a lot are called yet few are chosen. Just because you got a wand from Ollivander’s Wand Shop and the Sorting Hat put you in a house that you liked doesn’t mean you can perfectly cast a levitating spell instantly, unless you are Hermione.
When we were still in school, we all thought that flunking a subject would ruin our lives forever. It is natural to think that way because ever since we entered pre-school, great emphasis have been put on getting good grades by our parents and teachers. And rightly so. We all need to be sharpened and disciplined because certain tasks in life requires aptitude and skill to be accomplished. But flunking a subject will not make you unemployable or less skilled.
Certain courses require rigid training like your course which is accounting. I know that the accountancy board examination is one of the most difficult board exams in the country and schools who want to have a high passing percentage of their graduates are very rigid in their screening procedures. Accounting is a profession imbued with public interest and the government must assure the public that licensed accountants are competent and of good quality.
Competence is something that you develop as you learn. Part of learning is failing. And in life you will make many mistakes and failures. A scarred transcript will not spell doom. What is important is that you have the opportunity to hone your skills and you have the chance to study the subject again. Teachers would rather see their students flunk in subjects in school than flunk the national board exams.
Employers are not fascist about scarred transcripts. Employers will still hire graduates with dismal grades from certain schools because they are aware that the training in those schools is very rigid and the graduates produced are reliable. And more often than not, graduates who were tortured in their schools tend to overshadow pampered graduates from other schools in the actual workplace. Training always spells the difference in actual job performance.
I think you needed to flunk your subject so that you’d snap out of your complacency and you’d learn humility. Don’t be such a wuss. In this world, guts take people further than brains. So what if you’ll get held back by a semester? At least you weren’t kicked out from the program. Do not worry that you’d be left behind by your batch mates. Besides, how can you be so sure that those batch mates who’d graduate ahead of you would make it through the board exams? The race we are in only ends when we die. Along the way, others will encounter obstacles and get stuck while laggards can suddenly get ahead in leaps and bounds.
The greatest sin that you can commit against yourself is to fold up upon encountering a slight difficulty. We can only become polished by being rubbed against very rough surfaces. Never look for the easy way out. And did you just try to insult me? You think you are already old. Does that mean you think I’m ancient? How dare you!
Your college life will be senseless if you don’t do anything to spice it up a bit. Get laid if you can. Have fun! But whatever you do, do not balk at experiencing difficulty. Go through it. If you don’t, I’ll hex you.
Truly Yours,
Auntie Janey
agoniesforauntiejaney@gmail.com
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How we would’ve answered this letter:
If you have good reading comprehension skills you don’t have to study so much. End.
May 18th, 2012 at 10:55
I don’t understand fandom = bad grades. I owe most of my skills to making fandom things in LJ (it takes so much time, I tell ya), while doing well and incorporating those skills at school. I know some people in different courses who did too. We saw a lot of movies, read many books, and was into a lot of fandoms while studying. As an HP fangirl I am offended.
Also, oh my sweet summer child. High grades will get you good internships and scholarships abroad but it’s hard work (and maybe some communication and ass-kissing skills) that will get you everywhere else.
May 18th, 2012 at 11:19
Mr. Snape,
It’s not just what you know but who you know as well. If you manage your time correctly, maybe you can leverage your extended school stay to take up part-time internships in companies that would need an extra hand. Don’t expect to do important things or to get paid much, if at all. The point of doing that would be to make connections (provided you do well enough) that will help you land a job and vouch for you to HR when the issue of your failing mark comes up (there are just some companies that have a blanket “no failing marks” rule for screening applicants). This will also allow you to have a preview into your future life and make adjustments as necessary.
I know of a person who took a leave from her day job to go to graduate school. She spent all her free time studying and eventually finished with the highest rank in her class. Another person used the extra free time to do all sorts of odd jobs (consultancies, freelance work). Since he did not prioritize his studies as much as the first person did, he got some low marks / Incompletes on his transcript (that he eventually resolved). He was able to land an internship in a multinational corporation the summer before they graduated. When both of them applied for a job at the same company, the second person got the job. That person now makes four times the girl’s annual salary. That they’re both happy with what they ended up with could be a different matter altogether. The point is, proper strategy and networking may just as well lead you to success as doing well in your studies.
Good luck!
May 18th, 2012 at 11:20
Ay Mr. Potter pala, haha sorry!
May 18th, 2012 at 11:51
witty and funny! your spell never wears off. :)
May 18th, 2012 at 14:56
“How we would’ve answered this letter:
If you have good reading comprehension skills you don’t have to study so much. End”
LOL! I love it!!!
May 18th, 2012 at 21:54
bravo, auntie janey. wish my eldest american niece could read this. unfortunately, she doesn’t take advice from us anymore.
May 19th, 2012 at 11:46
i almost freaked out when i read auntie janey podcasts! thank you for clarifying in the first paragraph otherwise i would’ve gotten embroiled in a futile search :) to boy potter, i spent six years in college and shift courses in my third year. never regretted that, and much happier with how things turned out in my professional life (than if i stayed to study molecular biology). don’t get stuck if you’re unhappy but more importantly, don’t be a wuss. tama si uncle janey! good luck!