The Twisted25 Project: Love is an ashtray in the pits of hell.
Every week we post a quote from the Twisted series, which turns 25 next year.
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This goes out to every normal-seeming person who, in the grip of passion, turns into a completely different creature. Basically I turn into The Hulk. Question: Which one is the real you?
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October 18th, 2018 at 07:50
I turn into a needy, desperate, crazy person that I’ve become too familiar with, but somehow have not managed to control. I am the chillest when it comes to dating, until I am not.
October 19th, 2018 at 20:41
kracle: Being aware that I sabotage myself, I consulted my friend Jon (former rugby player) on how to behave when in the grip. His advice:
1. Just go for broke. (Or as I put it, Better embarrassment than regret.)
2. It’s not stalking if he likes you. Everything you do will seem adorable. (Unless you are an actual stalker.)
3. If you can give the reasons why you are in love with someone, it’s over.
Jon is wise, so he is my relationship guru.
October 22nd, 2018 at 08:30
I think I struggle with number 3. I try to analyze the reasons for loving someone before I can finally commit to them. This has become an issue as it would take about three months, and by this time, they lose interest thinking I am not really into them. Just recently, I dated a guy for about five months and when I finally figured out my feelings and wanted to make things formal between us, he has lost interest. He thought that he was just one in the string of guys I was dating, which was not true. I absolutely like this guy. In fact, I think I love him. The thing is, I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone when I am not mentally and emotionally ready to do so. So I guess my question is, how do you go about dating someone for maybe three months, without them losing interest? I’ve been trying to navigate this question and honestly, the only answer I can think of is just to be totally blunt about it. I could not think of a gentled approach.