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I am a gay man whose female best friend is getting married in a two months. Last week I was at a bar with my best friend’s soon-to-be husband when he took my hand and. . .let’s just say he propositioned me. The guy who’s going to marry my best friend!

Should I tell her? How do I tell her?

After learning that Gandalf had fallen into the shadow, Galadriel said to the Company: “But this I will say to you: your Quest stands upon the edge of a knife. Stray but a little and it will fail, to the ruin of all. Yet hope remains while all the Company is true.” A heavy burden was indeed placed on you Ring-bearer when Gandalf fished out the One Ring from the flames and dropped it into your hand. Or did he make you grasp his staff?

It is common belief that the truth shall set one free. That it must be relevant, good and useful. Just look at the walls painted over by the Rotary Club. But when and how do you say it? Since ancient times it has always been the messenger that gets killed. Most of us enjoy living.

The truth must be known eventually but not everyone can handle the truth. The messenger must first assess the strength and character of the recipient and fully recognize what is at stake. Truth sometimes ruthlessly destroys before it liberates. There are instances that there is complete destruction and the recipient can never recover and is scarred for life. It is sometimes merciful to let people live a lie. Some people know that they are living a lie but prefer it to the truth. Let them be. We are not responsible for the happiness of others.

Sometimes it is best for people to discover the truth by themselves. Life has a way of unexpectedly shoving our faces in it. Some of us may lose ourselves for a while but we get back on track and move on. Others, however, get permanently derailed. We are animals after all and the rule of Nature has always been survival of the fittest.

A person sometimes does something that is out of character. This erratic act, no matter how shocking, does not define that person. It would be bad judgment to use that as a yardstick to gauge a person’s true character and nature. People tend to do stupid things without thinking about the consequences and repercussions. And most stupid mistakes are a result of ill-considered whims. One should only be alarmed if the erratic behavior has become the norm. It takes time to know this and prudence is called for. Everything is never as it seems.

In our lifetime, there are moments that we are asked to make a judgment call. The quality of our person will be tested. Will we be beautiful and terrible as the Morning and the Night? Fair as the Sea and the Sun and the Snow upon the Mountain? Dreadful as the Storm and the Lightning? Stronger than the foundations of the earth?

Or remain as we are.

I have gone on and on Ring-bearer but I have not given you advice. Did not Gandalf tell you: “Go not to the Elves for counsel for they will both say no and yes”?

I will utter Gildor Inglorion’s words in parting: “Elves seldom give unguarded advice, for advice is a dangerous gift, even from the wise to the wise, and all courses may run ill. But what would you? You have not told me all concerning yourself; and how then shall I choose better than you?”