Why we haven’t met aliens: life is a freak of nature.
Prime location for life in our solar system: Jupiter’s moon Europa. Image: NASA/JPL/University of Arizona/University of Colorado
Read Life: Is it inevitable or just a fluke? by Nick Lane in New Scientist. Registration required.
So you won’t be hanging out with Vulcans and Romulans very soon. There may be simple life forms on other planets, but complex life, intelligent life, is not inevitable.
On the bright side, we probably don’t have competition out there. They’re not coming to wipe us out (Not that we can’t do that ourselves).
So we’re alone in the universe. More room for us! Let’s colonize some worlds!