Auntie Janey’s Old-Fashioned Agony Column # 23: How jealousy is like wasabe
Dear Auntie Janey,
Recently the girlfriend of my ex started befriending me in all the social networking sites. Even in chats and emails too. I did not think of it as harmful because this girl and I have been acquainted since college and her family knows my family as well. I can say that she is a lady with a kind heart.
A few weeks ago we had a live chat. She is in the United States and I am in the Middle East. And the guy is in the Philippines. She opened the topic that she and my ex have broken up. I am saddened by the news because I thought they had been going strong for almost 4 years. And thought that the only issue they had been struggling with is the long distance relationship. She did not hesitate to tell me the whole story. And their problem is the same one my ex-boyfriend and I had.
The guy would not let her wear spaghetti straps or shorts even if it’s summer in the Philippines. The girl is decent and came from a very decent family too. The guy would not let her talk to certain people. In short, “nakakasakal”. In the past whenever they broke up the girl would be the one begging him to take her back. But as she pointed out, “paulit ulit na lang”. So there, she finally made up her mind to focus on loving herself.
Well, I told her that she’s doing herself a huge favor.Please don’t get me wrong, I am not badmouthing my ex but she opened the topic. Auntie Janey, why are there guys who are so “mapagbawal” (imposing many restrictions) and strict?
Anyway I’m happy to have made a friend. She’s such a genuine person. Thank you Auntie Janey. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Lots of love,
Miss Congeniality